September 3, 2024

Shalia Ford: Transforming Trauma Into Triumph

Episode 39
“Leadership is an inside job, first and foremost.”

Shalia Ford: Transforming Trauma Into Triumph

Episode 39

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"I think that what I'm able to do in the program is to create the brave space that women need to be vulnerable, to do the internal work that has to happen, to have great and deep, thoughtful, reflective conversations, to bring in a lot of other great women. But at the end of it, that she's breaking out of that chrysalis and she's got her wings."

In this powerful episode of the She Lift Project podcast, host Cynthia Kirkpatrick is joined by Shalia Ford, a seasoned leader and director of leadership programs at Focus St. Louis. Together, they dive into Shalia’s inspiring journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a community leader who empowers women and youth to discover their true potential. Shalia shares profound insights on personal growth, the importance of self-reflection, and the courage to choose yourself.

The conversation explores themes of transformation, healing, and the significance of building supportive communities among women. Shalia’s story is a testament to the strength that comes from embracing your own power and purpose, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration and guidance on their own path to leadership and fulfillment.

Show Notes

🦋 Introduction and Background (00:03 – 09:10)

  • Cynthia Kirkpatrick introduces Shalia Ford, Director of Programs at Focus St. Louis
  • Shalia’s personal tagline: ‘Equip individuals to lead where they live, learn, work, play, and worship’
  • Discussion of Women in Leadership program and its transformative impact
  • Shalia explains the butterfly metaphor for women’s growth and development

🔍 Shalia’s Personal Journey (09:11 – 20:31)

  • Shalia shares her background of trauma and abuse as a child
  • At 16, Shalia made the decision to leave her unsafe home environment
  • Education became Shalia’s way out and path to independence
  • Shalia’s healing journey and the importance of choosing oneself

💪 Leadership and Personal Growth (20:31 – 30:33)

  • Shalia’s transition from trauma to triumph
  • The importance of self-reflection and internal work in leadership
  • Shalia’s work with youth leadership programs
  • Discussion on the power of choice and taking responsibility for oneself

👥 Women Supporting Women (30:33 – 39:12)

  • Shalia’s experience with a mentor who became a strong ally
  • The importance of creating safe and brave spaces for women
  • Addressing the myth that women don’t support each other
  • The power of intentional community-building among women

🔑 Self-Discovery and Leadership (39:12 – 48:14)

  • The challenge of self-discovery for women due to societal expectations
  • The importance of taking time for self-reflection and internal work
  • Shalia’s approach to leadership development and facilitation
  • Discussion on the butterfly metaphor and women’s transformation

📚 Leadership Lessons and Favorite Books (48:14 – 58:35)

  • Shalia’s shift from focusing on success to significance
  • Key leadership characteristics: listening, trust-building, integrity, and vulnerability
  • Shalia’s favorite leadership and personal development books
  • The importance of internal work and self-reflection in leadership

🌟 Shalia’s Writing and Future Plans (58:35 – 01:08:29)

  • Shalia’s contribution to the ‘Intention’ anthology with her chapter ‘I Choose Me’
  • The healing and liberating experience of writing her story
  • Shalia’s aspirations for future writing and workshops
  • Discussion on the importance of owning one’s narrative and choosing oneself

🎓 Conclusion and Key Takeaways (01:08:30 – 01:19:12)

  • The importance of internal work in achieving personal joy and significance
  • Shalia’s ongoing journey of growth and evolution
  • The power of focusing on strengths rather than weaknesses
  • Cynthia’s reflections on the impact of Shalia’s teachings

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