February 6, 2024

Bernie Frazier: Your Success is in You

Episode 25
“A good leader can cause their people to run through fire with gasoline underwear on.”

Bernie Frazier: Your Success is in You

Episode 25

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“There’s something about 40 psychologically, that we see it as half-way in career, half-way in life... And people start to reflect. ‘Ok, I’ve done these things, do I want to do this going forward?’ And sometimes it’s ‘yes’. I find a lot of times its 'I’m not sure’ or ‘no’.”

Author of the highly acclaimed book, “Your Success is in YOU!: Empowering and Equipping You to Create Your Best Career Ever!”, Bernie Frazier, SPHR is an author, speaker, career coach/strategist, and talent acquisition expert whose mission is to help people overcome barriers to create greater success.

Bernie spent over 25 years leading corporate recruiting organizations, has served as keynote speaker for Fortune 500 corporations and organizations, and has coached clients globally from C-Suite executives to individual contributors.

She also served as the “Career Coach” on KSDK’s Today in St. Louis – the St. Louis NBC affiliate, shared timeless job search tips on SiriusXM and KTRS 550 AM radio in St. Louis, has been featured in the New York Times, and profiled in the St. Louis Business Journal.

She talks to Cynthia about her path to became a Career Strategist. She covers her early years in sales and how she learned how to be a great leader from her leader. As she plotted her career path, she noticed that certain past experiences and skills kept resurfacing in her mind, which guided her ultimate decisions. Now she helps others see those same patterns and find a career in alignment with who they are and what they love. Bernie has accumulated personal and professional wisdom over her 50+ years and she shares it all in this episode.

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1 – Intro 00:24
2 – What does Bernie do? 03:03
3 – What is a career coach 04:02
4 – How does career coaching process start 06:20
5 – How did you discover these trends 08:47
6 – Meeting experience with execs 10:00
7 – Bernie’s 5th grade story 13:33
8 – Was using your voice an innate trait? 15:15
9 – Good story of a-ha moment in coaching 17:19
10 – Leaders who aren’t suited for leadership 20:20
11 – Value of good leaders 22:49
12 – Leader of 30 years ago 23:43
13 – Why do leaders miss the obvious 27:10
14 – Why did you leave because of a boss 29:06
15 – What is the LOVE acronym for great leadership 30:48
16 – The job of a leader 38:50
17 – What causes an employee to lose engagement 40:45
18 – Importance of offering leadership training 42:10
19 – Having difficult conversations 43:56
20 – Your coaching practice origins 46:32
21 – Two instances where you identified your gifts 48:43
22 – What kind of gaps dd you want to fill for people 52:13
23 – Your Book: Your Success is in YOU 55:53
24 – Asking yourself: What do you want? 58:54
25 – Women aren’t conditioned to think about what they want 59:38
26 – How do you guide someone to answer what they want? 1:01:43
27 – Wisdom with age 1:04:56
28 – External views don’t always match the internal reality 1:07:01
29 – How to keep showing up 1:10:28
30 – Helping people feel seen and heard 1:13:51
31 – Knowing who you are before you can be comfortable with who that is 1:15:29
32 – Perspective changes in 40’s and 50’s 1:18:13
33 – Philosophy on age 1:19:03
34 – Not waiting to seek a better life 1:19:35
35 – Doing the work that you really want 1:21:51

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